Collars – Not Just for Decoration

Collars – Not Just for Decoration

written by SabaRogue

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– This is long over due, and I apologize for it. Writers block sucks. Anyways, this is a topic that was brought up, and sparked a bit of interest with me. So I thought I’d give my two cents. Please note: I’m not a professional. Don’t take my word as faith, and by all means, correct me if I’m wrong. I also apologize for saying Dom and “He” a lot. >< please don’t take offense Mistresses, I love you guys too ya know!

There are many different types of collars. Some are worn ALL the time, some are only for play, and some aren’t even collars at all. Some are physical, some are mental, and some are “branded”.

Different collars are used for different things. Here are some examples:

• 24 D/s
• Locked Collars
• Dog Collars
• Sissy Collars
• Rope Collars

A D/s collar is an item that is worn all the time to let others know that they are “owned” or “own”. I wear a lace up choker, with a bell all the time. Most people see it as a necklace, and only few people have asked me where my “Sir” was. It’s simple, elegant and very subtle. There are also stainless steel collars that look like pieces of jewelry, and may have a locking mechanism to keep the sub from taking it off without the key of their Master. Other collars might not even be collars at all. Some wear ankle bracelets that also lock, or wear a rope harness under their clothes all the time. Some might wear a bracelet, and others don’t have a collar at all.

I have a second collar that I wear only for Puppy Play. Dog collars that are used for Puppy Play are often a “trigger” for pup-space. Because of this, they tend to only be worn during that time and taken off after play to signal the sub to go back to head space. I do not recommend wearing your dog collar 24/7 unless it’s your Doms wish. If you have a 24/7 collar, it’s also wise to make sure that your dog collar can fit over it, or be worn with it.

Some people who are collared might also be “branded”. This is done with tattooing, scaring, burning, and so on. Some are VERY extreme, and all are permanent. If your dom wishes to brand you, be sure you understand EXACTLY what is going on. If anything should happen that you and your Dom no longer wish to be together, what then? Because of this aspect, even though I love my Master very much – Branding is something we’ve agreed not to do. We have gotten tattoo’s together in the past, but this is an extreme that we are both not comfortable with at this time. We’re still very young, and such a measure could prove to be more heartbreaking then soul filling.

A collar given to you by your Dom should NEVER be taken lightly. Think of it as a wedding ring, a sign of great commitment. A wedding or engagement ring perhaps. This is a sign of trust, love, and desire. If you take off your collar on your own, it’s a great sign of disrespect, and you should only take off the collar if you have to (taking a shower while your Dom isn’t there as a great example). If you have to take off the collar and your Dom is not there, send him a text or call him to let him know why you are taking it off, and ask for his forgiveness. Even if he laughs for you asking, know that at the very least, you showed him respect. I, myself, found myself taking off my collar without him, and I felt so bad for doing it. He knew I had to though, I was putting on my new kitty bell he had me buy. It was my gift ’cause I was being a very good girl, and I always wanted a bell on my collar. He later thanked me (and I just got a kiss) for being so respectful.

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Now I’m going to change the subject just a bit. This is for Dom/mes who have acquired a new pet who was previously collared. Do you need to buy them a new collar? This subject is strictly personal opinion. By all means, do what you feel is correct, but here is what I have to say.

You just found yourself the perfect little sub, and are absolutely in love with them. There is a small problem that you’re not sure what to do about. Around his neck is a collar that was given to them by their previous owners. What do you do? Do you let them keep it? Do you rip it off of them and throw it out? Do you ignore it?

If you feel comfortable enough, speak with their old Master about it. Let them know if you wish to replace it, or if they insist that you do. Talk to the Sub and ask them if they’d like to keep it in a box as a reminder of good times. Communication is the key to happiness.

If you do not feel comfortable talking to the Dom about it, talk to the Sub. Ask them how they feel about it.

Now, for what I have to say.

A new sub who was previously owned, so be presented with a new collar. The Collar is a symbol, as I said before. As a way to severe the bond that might still be present with the Sub and his former Master, the collar should be removed. What kind of collar you present them, is up to the relationship. If the Collar is for only play, then the collar should reflect that.

It’s also wise that when you go out to buy a new Collar, make it a fun event for both of you. Take them with you, try them out, see what goes best. Funny looks will happen, but me and my friends used to do this all the time at pet shops before we even understood why it was strange. We were just being silly.

The old collar, by all means, can be kept. Some feel it’s right to bury it, and completely cut off the old ties that lies with it. This point of time though can be very emotional to the Submissive. The person who had them Collared before was of great importance to them, and it should always be treated with respect.

I hope this clears up some things, and if you have any questions, comments, or criticism, let me know.