pups note: Here is my most recent interview I took part in from KinkyFantasies Online that I can now proudly share with you all being translated in english..wruff! It took me almost 2 months to finish as I really took the time to properly make sure I was giving the best and most honest answer I could pull out of me. Please click the link at the bottom of the post for the entire interview as I have only posted the first couple questions as its quite long and don’t want to force you to read it all 😉 But if your intrigued with knowing more about me and some of my experiences please do read on and of course any questions after feel free to ask on one of the many ways to contact me. Thank you again to KinkyFantasies Online for having me be a part of their interviews and hope you all enjoy reading as much as I enjoyed sharing..wruff!
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Deviant Kade , is a true legend among BDSM & Femdom Porn Industry . He is definitely the most famous sub/acton of Companies such as Kink.com ,Meanbitches.com and Femdom Empire where he has a more active role
Every submissive guy in the world would love to be at his place because he has been dominated by the most sexy Femdom Mistresses of the world , such as Claire Adams, Aiden Starr , Harmony Rose , Penny Flame , Sanra Romain , Lea Lexis , Annette Schwartz , Nyomo Banxx , Sophie Dee , Lorelei Lee , Lexi Sindel , Simone Cross , Goddess Soma and of course the list , just going on and on ….
Would you like from the best actor how can someone become a professional sub actor ? How do Mistresses dominate a sub during a movie ?
Just read kade’s interview at Kinky Fantasies On Line :
Greek Readers may read the available Greek Version
Complete 14-pg Interview in English only at : http://kinkyfantasiesonline.blogspot.gr
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Question
Kade , first of all , I would like to thank you for your valuable time . You are the most famous sub/actor and quite well known from your movies at Kink.com, Meanbitches etc.
Your knowledge is valuable to us. Please tell us a few words about Female Domination and how you learned about aspects of this life for the first time.
Kade
— Wow! Thank you so much for the very kind words and another BIG thank you for having me be a part of your interviews. I always I tend to learn much more about myself as well during the process so I am excited to get started
here. But where do I began as the story started about a decade ago and oh boy there is a lot to try and tell. At the age of 20 I worked in the restaurant business and a Waitress I knew had mentioned her work as a Dominatrix a few times which peaked my interest as well as my girlfriend’s. We immediately starting asking more and more questions and then made our first trip to Ace Hardware for some basic BDSM supplies to get the bedroom games going. If I remember correctly we purchased: Duct Tape, Rope, Clothespins and Candles. Which Yes, looked like one big rape kit to the clerk I am assuming which we laughed about. We ran straight home to open the bag and to our surprise a whole new adventure and path in my life leaped out.
We were both immediately hooked into the aspects of Pain & Pleasure and even more so Dominance and Submission that we started to consume ourselves in it. My Girlfriend started to work as a Pro-Domme at a local Dungeon which I in then became the guinea pig and had no problem whatsoever with it. I had very quickly assumed the submissive role in the relationship and had very little tendencies to want to try the dominant role. I am assuming growing up with my Mother and two older sisters gave me a certain kind of respect towards women where being dominant to girls was not something I wanted to pursue. Being submissive just seemed right and natural to me and I was able to really explore that side of myself that I never really knew I had. I felt like it was then I really started to learn who I truly was as I began to find myself in the world of BDSM.
This was the first time in my life where anything Kinky had really come up except for seeing a few things here and there on the Internet at a younger age. I recall around 16 when the Internet first started to really boom I stumbled onto some women tied up, having fun which did not turn me off lets just say. It wasn’t my form of material in my spank bank at that time but something about it must have lingered in my head until it was awakened around the age of 20. I really was an a extremely luckily boy to of had a girlfriend to dive into the world of BDSM together at that time and get the opportunity to try whatever kinky fetish peaked our interest that week. From then on out we both read many books, watched a whole lot of smut, and played as much as we could to try any and everything that would turn us on. We both loved the kink lifestyle and in the end built our life around it in every form.
She began to model under Sadistic Skye, which then became Acacia Skye and I would tag along to help her out and make sure nothing creepy went down being the nice boyfriend and all. A few photo shoots into her modeling career a photographer had asked me to take my shirt off and pose next to her. Keep in mind we are in a dark, grungy downtown San Francisco alleyway in China Town at some weird hour at night, which probably was the one reason why I said Yes. Growing up though I was extremely camera shy until this very moment sprung on me. We went into the dark cold corner with the alley light above and which the photographer took a few snaps and then Bam! I saw the image a few weeks later and although nothing super amazing it was still pretty cool and had sparked something inside me where I wanted more. I had no idea I had any type of exhibitionist feelings until I saw this image and couldn’t help but see what else I could do with this newfound interest.
From here on out I began to find my own modeling gigs mostly through ModelMayhem and the Craigslist Gigs section back when it was still being used for adult job searches. At the time there was very few male fetish models so having a fetish model as a girlfriend/Mistress made it much easier to get in with the good photographers who mainly shot women. Still wanting more though and lets be honest here needing some extra money at the time, I turned to a local film company needing males to jack off in front of the camera. Pretty sure the pay was $500 for first timers, which sounded like a pretty good deal to do something I normally do for free at home. I had s
etup a time to come over and give it a go during my lunch break from work since the studio was only 2 blocks away. Figuring I could bang this out in less then an hour I hustled over there, filled out paperwork, dropped my shorts and began to jerk my cock with 30-minutes to spare. About a hundred or two strokes later I looked down and realized my penis isn’t that hard at all..crap! This then starts to fill my head with all these thoughts and the pressure kicks in. 15 minutes before I had to be back at work still nothing and have to call the game leaving disappointed in myself, unsatisfied and no paycheck in hand.
A week later I returned to the studio feeling much more comfortable with myself and waited a good 3-4 days of not masturbating so this way I definitely would give a good show. Plus I decided to wait till after work to do this so the time pressure was not there to mess with my head. I settled into my chair, dropped my underwear again and started to stroke away giving one hell of a performace that left me walking home with a huge grim on my face. I had just popped my being on video cherry and at that very moment was when this whole new industry came into my life. I loved it! I had loved being a slut on camera and the more I thought about other men and women loving it too made it that much more exciting. It was then I really started to pursue my role as a fetish/adult performer in this industry. I wanted to make it my career and I wanted to go as far as I possibly could with it.
Very shortly after getting the film bug I contacted Kink.com about shooting for their MeninPain.com site. This actually took several tries to almost a year later until getting an interview with them so do not think any of it was hand to me on the first day. Persistence can be key. I successfully performed in my interview and was given the chance to shoot for their site and my career then started to explode as a Male Fetish/Adult Model. Skye and I decided to part ways and I moved to Los Angeles to make my life in front of the camera a full-time job and can say I successfully did just that but not without working my ass off. Literally. Not an easy task for a male to do, which brings me to our next question. I could fill up books of more history and odd encounters and experiences of the beginning of Deviant Kade but will save those for a rainy day so you don’t get too bored. For now that is a quick start to how I got started in the tiniest of nutshells.
Question
Is it easy for a sub living at USA to find a company and become a sub/actor ? Could you tell us a few words about your “fetish travel” among BDSM Video Companies ? Which company do you prefer the most ?
Kade
Honestly I am going to say it is quite difficult for a male sub/actor to get involved in the Fetish/Adult Industry. With the bigger companies you usually must be local for them to want to try you out or the stars and moon must all be aligned perfectly when you are visiting that region when a slave cancellation occurs. Even getting in with smaller companies is tricky as a male performer especially if you’re looking for any type of big paycheck. Every company has hundreds of men willing to perform for free especially the Female Dominated sites so I am going to very honest here going forward. Unless you have some special slave skill or are just insanely attractive you may be working for no pay if you want to let your exhibitionist side loose on camera with Experienced Domme’s. Now if you have a female partner who also is interested in being on video then you are one of the lucky few and a company will snatch her up along with you for the first couple which is all you need to get started. Once you have proven to be able to perform on camera with your girlfriend it will be much easier to contact a comp
any with actual proof of a hard-on, as well as even the fact you can show up to set which isalways half the battle for first-timers.
If you seeking a career as a slave you may want to try finding local clips4sale studios in your area and contacting them directly about becoming male talent. Treat it as a job, be respectful, clear thought out sentences, and above all send clear face and body shots. Cock shots really are not that important on an opening email for Femdom in my opinion unless you are trying to do sex slave scenarios. In that case yes bigger is usually better for that slave role. Sorry it is true guys. Well there is a thing as too big and have found 7-9 inches seems to be a perfect size for male’s to be in the Femdom film industry and overall what women seem to prefer or at least what I hear on the streets. Besides spending the hours of dedication searching out companies in your local area I am not sure where a male would go looking at this time. If you do find a company just please do not bother them with hundreds of emails if you do not hear back but wait a month or three and send another or try a different email address to contact. Sometimes twitter or other social networks are a good way of contacting a producer to work for them. Most importantly though just be respectful and treat it like you were going to your normal job even though BDSM and sex may occur. If you do that you will do just fine!
Right now Femdom companies are pretty spread out with Kink.com being in San Francisco, FemdomEmpire.com in Los Angeles, SmuttyProductions.com up North, EnglishMansion.com in the UK and a few others here and there in between. Those are really the biggest femdom players in my eyes with a few other companies doing cuckold scen
arios like Kickass and Dog Fart productions if your willing to go that extra mile on camera as a sub. You have a lot of other companies in Europe but don’t really see them doing anything different then the normal whip and beat type of films we have seen for many years now. The BDSM market has become a little stale in my opinion with only a few companies like the above-mentioned finding new creative, exciting ways to use and abuse slaves. I really enjoy the look and style of StraponDreamer.com too and think they are the first in a long time to really bring a whole new look and feel to Femdom Strapon films. It is those types of sites and productions I love seeing pop up that push new producers getting involved to experiment and bring a whole new experience to the table for viewers at home. As for which company I love working for the most I really cannot answer that as each and every one has been a completely different experience to go thru leaving me smiling every time…err almost every time.
My travels among fetish video companies during the years basically has lead me to all sorts of random places in the United States as well as traveling to Europe to do some filming with The English Mansion. Wh
en craigslist still had an adult gigs section I was able to get in touch very easily with tons of fetish producers all over the US which took me up and down California constantly to parts of Oregon, Nevada, Arizona, Colorado, Maryland, New York, Florida and some others in between I know I am forgetting. Actually would of liked to of traveled much more but it is a lot of work to set up as a performer without an agent to do it for you. I found very quickly that if you want to work for a company as a freelance performer you would have to get to them on your own terms 99% of the time. A few will pay/refund your transportation costs upon showing up but normally every trip I made came out of my pocket and usually ended up making enough money to have a worry free trip and come home to pay some rent but usually not much more. On average a male is paid $200-500 USD sometimes more and sometimes less depending on what your doing and who it is for. Nor
mally a professional submissive I would book multiple shoots in one day to maximize my profits for the trip which sometimes was a good idea. By the end of those days I would be beat to shit in more ways then one but really can’t lie and say I didn’t love every minute of it.
Question
I have to tell you than many subs at Greece would love to be at your place (me also among them) because you have the chance to work with the sexiest Femdom Mistresses .
We would like to know about your experiences with the Mistresses from Kink & Meanbitches . Which is the most Kinky and dominant? I mean which do you believe really enjoy doing fetish activities and is a natural talent and of course dominated you the hard way ? .
Kade
Another really tough question to answer as there have been so many talented and skilled Women that I have been on the end of their whip throughout the years but can surely come up with a few names for you. Right off the bat the following Women have radiated a natural dominance about them through their movies and scenes with me in the adult industry and it certainly shows they love every minute of it. Claire Adams, Aidan Starr, Harmony, Penny Flame, Sandra Roman, Lea Lexis, Annette Schwartz, Nyomi Banxxx, Sophie Dee and Lorelei Lee quickly come to mine from working with at Kink.com and MeanBitches. Wow! The more I think about it the more women keep starting to pop up and can’t help but realize how slutty I have been..lol Quite the lucky boy to be honest with you. In fact very lucky!
A few other top notch Mistresses I cant help but shout out would be Lexi Sindel, Simone Kross and Goddess Soma who have kicked major ass this past decade in the Femdom Video world on both sides of the camera. If you
have not heard of any of these outstanding ladies I highly recommend you put google to use. Back to Kink.com for a second I really would have to put down Claire Adams, Sandra Romain and Penny Flame to take the cake for my all time favorite Women and scenes I filmed there. They all had completely different styles that seem to hit all my kinky little cravings and urges that needed to be filled. They ranged from soft, quiet and extremely sadistic to loud, cruel and scary to even the laughing, full of sex controlling your cock type of Domme that will drive any slave mad. I have no doubt they all natur
ally loved abusing men and their slave parts or at least that is what it sure looked like from my point of view.
Question
I always had questions about the actual life as a sub/actor . How do you prepare yourself for the movie ? Do you meet the Mistress / Actor before ? Practice a few things , maybe a personal session before the shoot to learn each other’s body ?
How exactly does this work ? During the shoot can you control your self (pain ,pleasure , cum) ? Tell us a few details about the creation of a BDSM movie
Kade
The life of a sub/actor is not all fun and games or just what you see on screen. Why yes! It is mostly fun it still requires an extreme amount of preparation whether it be mentally or physically depending on what you are getting yourself into. A lot of times I may have a call time for 9/10am for a strap-on anal scene leaving me to wake up hours before to prepare my body for what’s about to be shoved into it. Days before any type of anal scene I am spending a few moments a day with a dildo properly stretching myself or tears can happen on set leading to an extreme amount of pain. I know from personal experience with an anal scene I shot a year or two into my filming career that lead me to get rectal surgery having to wait a year before returning to my butt slut of ways. Another story for another time but it was the worst pain of my life for several months and wish it upon no one. Use lube, lube and even more lube and if it still will not fit do not force and just try for something smaller. Just gives you something to work up to 😉
Back to preparation. The morning of an anal shoot I spend up usually 30-min to and hour to properly shave and trim all areas that need be as my Russian hairiness kicks in causing a wolf like state if not properly kept up. Although I enjoy being a puppy, which I will get to later, I am quite fond of a being an almost hairless one and do what needs to be done to achieve that. And lets face it I do not know of many ladies that like pegging a slave with a hairy butthole. It’s just that simple. Do onto yourself, as you would like to see on others. Or something like that right? After the grooming process I spend a little more time and do a thorough enema cleanse with my shower system before packing up
and heading out the door.
Now the time I spend driving to the studio is basically my moments to mentally prepare myself and let anything go that is on my mind and bothering it. One of the few things I almost have to do is blast some tunes for at least 10-15 minutes while driving so I can sing along and rock out the F&%k out in my own personal moving studio which I am sure drivers passing by must love to see. Upon arriving to set I am in now in a grooving mood and ready to start the next step of preparation. Round 2 of enemas. This round I use just a little bulb to make sure I am extra clean before starting but do not want to flood myself again with the scene taking place in 15-30 minutes. Yes, shit happens and happens to the hottest of porn stars but if you properly prepare your body you can prevent it from being any type of big disaster. One thing I take is Imodium the night before and morning of which backs everything up and can help get you through the day. Not something to be taking all the time but for an anal scene here and there it can help put you mentally at ease to have a clean proper fucking.
I almost never meet the performer I will be working with on shoots and honestly rarely even know the name of the Mistress who will be taking advantage of me until I arrive on set. This can be very exciting but also a little scary not knowing how skilled the Dominant will be and what things she may or may not know how to do. Most of the time for your own safety when you do not know the top you are playing with you have to stay on-guard preventing you from falling deep into subspace. Of course most of the time the directors have your back but only you know when is too far and if for some reason you get to that point you need to be able to take control of it. Luckily for companies like Kink.com, Mean Bitches and Femdom Empire you are working with highly skilled professionals so allowing yourself to fall into that subspace is not as difficult then some of the more amateur companies where you may need to keep your guard on the entire time. When the whip starts hitting the kidneys you need to be ready to speak up rather than wait for someone else to and possible walk away seriously injured.
As for controlling the pain, pleasure and my cum you ask? Well if you do not like some form of pain then it will be extremely tough for you to do those types of scenes. Personally I enjoyed the aspect of it and although it hurt like hell most the time I wanted to push my way through it not just for me but also for the Mistress causing it. I wanted to make her proud as well as make myself proud knowing I can handle anything she dishes out at me. Kink.com helped me learn a lot about the art of controlling your breathing while taking any form of pain if you want to get through it without kicking and screaming. I was trained to find that one point on the wall in front of me and just stare while focusing on my breath and controlling the rhythm while not trying to think about the cane currently tearing the skin off my little behind. Proper training in breath control can work wonders for a slave who does not like pain of any kind. Also if for some reason it does become too intense you are always given a safe word to opt and stop at any time. If you are gagged you are given a range of motions and noises to make, which will let the Mistress and Director know to stop and pull you out of whatever is happening. Especially the bondage you may be rigged in. I want to make this next point very clear to all slaves and subs. You should never EVER feel ashamed of using your safeword. Nobody knows you better then yourself and when it happens you and your partner will now know your breaking point to slowly start cracking next time. Now the fun will really begin!